First Time Host Families Prepare for Their Exchange Students -

Each school year, thousands of American families take the leap and welcome an exchange student into their hearts and homes. While hosting can seem daunting, STS Foundation provides first-time host families with plenty of support through our Local Coordinators and materials to help you prepare for the journey. Some of our First-time host families share why they decided to host, how they've connected to their students even while they’re still across the ocean, and how they’re preparing for their arrival.

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How did you learn about hosting, and what made you decide to host?

Host Dad Randal: I first learned about exchange students when I was in high school many years ago. I was hoping to host when my sons were in high school, but I wasn’t able to make it work. I’m an Air Force veteran and became interested in other cultures through that experience, and now I work part-time at a school, so I’ve really enjoyed getting to know this generation of high schoolers. Since 2017, I’ve sponsored students in other countries, enabling some to pursue their degrees in teaching, engineering, psychology, statistics, and nursing. It’s quite the honor and thrill to have visited most of them in person and witnessed their clear conviction and commitment to successfully complete their educational goals.

Host Parents Jillian & Jesse: Our family had the opportunity to live abroad in China, and that experience truly opened our eyes and changed our lives! We had talked about how neat it would be to one day host an exchange student in our home, so when we saw an ad inviting us to learn more about hosting, my husband clicked on it, and our journey began. We attended an informational meeting, thinking we’d just “learn more for the future,” but left excited to start viewing profiles of prospective students! I think within 3 days we had made our choice!

Host Parents Jim & Jennifer: We were introduced to the concept of hosting exchange students by a friend at our church who works for STS Foundation. Her perspective from hosting students from other cultures and countries was eye-opening for us. We decided to try it as a one-semester experience. As we began looking at videos from teens, we chose the first ones we watched! We decided to host two girls, which seems doable for us, and we certainly have the room since our children are grown.

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How has it been getting to know your students before they arrive to the USA?

Jim & Jennifer: The girls first contacted us through email and WhatsApp. From then on, we began a group email so everyone is receiving the same information, and it’s been very helpful. Getting to know each other better through words and pictures is preparing us for when we get together. We have suggested activities and places of interest while our students are here in the United States and they are giving us their feedback.

Jillian & Jesse: Since receiving the placement approval, we have been in constant communication via WhatsApp. We text back and forth every day in a family group chat. Our two daughters, 13 and 10, are included too! Sometimes we ask questions, especially in the beginning, and sometimes we just send silly pictures or just do a little check-in. Either way, it is allowing us to get to know each other in our day-to-day lives and to feel more comfortable. For example, last week our student had her 10th-grade graduation, which is a very big deal in Spain! We felt like we were right there with her, preparing for it and even experiencing it with all the pictures and chats along the way! Right now, she is at camp with friends and has already sent pictures of them on their way, playing paintball, and enjoying the pool! On our end, we have been sending her pictures of us preparing her bedroom! She is very excited about it!

Randal: We’ve been connecting over WhatsApp video calls, and a lot of our conversations have been focused on preparing them for school, and getting to know each other better. The girls both had a strong desire to get in touch with each other as soon as possible to find out more about the other. They’ve hit it off well and have already established a beautiful bond. I would say texting has mostly been about class planning, tryouts for school sports teams, general conversational topics about ourselves, and discussing our plans for a couple of the school’s extended holiday breaks. Meanwhile, the girls have learned more about my family from a letter I sent them by mail.

How have you started preparing for hosting?

Randal: I have sent both girls a full list of classes offered by the local high school to help them select the courses they desire. I’ve also set up their rooms so they know they don’t need to bring things like towels, toiletries, and winter clothing like hats, scarves, and gloves, along with some fun surprises! To prepare the school for having exchange students, I’ve been in touch with their counselor, the sports director, and coaches, helping give the girls a good chance to try new and familiar sports while on exchange. I also want to help the girls become real members of the community, so my goal is for us to participate in a different charitable activity every month, and the girls are excited to take part.

Jillian & Jesse: We are newer to Indiana, and our kids are homeschooled, so we look forward to learning more about our schools and community through hosting. Since our family has experienced life in another country, culture shock, homesickness, all the adjustments are things we feel better equipped to help Kyara with. We already understand a lot of the feelings that she may experience, and have already been able to talk through some of that with her. One cultural difference we have already learned about each other is the time change, and I do not just mean the time difference! I mean the times that we eat meals and go to bed. Spain has a lot of night owls!!! They eat dinner around 10-11 pm, and that is when we are definitely in bed! There will be some adjusting on all sides, but we are ready to embrace it. As first-time host parents, there is always the concern of bringing a teenager into the family – will she want to be with her friends all the time, will she want to spend time with us, etc. I feel like it is natural for any family to have these questions and concerns, as this is a new experience for us. However, through our conversations with Kyara, STS Foundation, our faith, and just what we have already experienced as a family, we are extremely ready to have her here with us and cannot wait to see what is in store! It is sure to be filled with amazing memories and another daughter for life!

Jim & Jennifer: In preparation for their arrival, we have notified our friends and families about the girls. Friends at church are anxious to meet them, as well as other teenagers at the church. In regard to preparing our own home, we have started to set up their rooms.

Take the leap today and join host families like these for the upcoming school year! When you invite an exchange student into your home, you give your family the gift of new traditions, cultures, and perspectives!

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